Advice to the Guys Who Are
Looking for T-Girls
T-girls
are special -
Femininity is a tremendous satisfaction for
t-girls and most love the attention from a gentleman admirer. Notice the word
"gentleman." When a t-girl feels that she is being treated with the
dignity and respect befitting a lady she is in heaven. Make a t-girl feel like
a lady and you're well on your way to success! Some of the men I have spoken
with tell me that nobody else can make them feel the way a t-girl can make
them feel. I think it would be a safe guess that these guys know how to treat
a t-girl like a lady. t-girls really are special and they can make you feel
special too!
Understand that not all
t-girls are the same - It is important that you have at least a basic
understanding of the various types of t-girls. A common mistake is to assume
that all t-girls are the same. This is risky business and your
misunderstanding could cause you to miss out on an opportunity to meet the
lover of your dreams. Some t-girls are heterosexual male crossdressers. They
simply aren't interested in men, so perhaps you shouldn't waste your time.
Others are bisexual (your chances are improving here). Some t-girls are
looking for men, others are looking for women. Some are seeking sex changes,
and others are not. Some live full-time as females, others live part-time as
females. Confused yet? You really shouldn't be. T-girls fall somewhere within
a broad spectrum. Read or listen as t-girls describe themselves and you will
gain insight into exactly where they are in their life and where they intend
to go. A dialog should be able to resolve any remaining questions you might
have. Remember that you're looking for someone who will compliment what
you're looking for and your job is to narrow the field to those who are
looking for someone just like you!
Use proper terminology - You
will quickly learn that not all t-girls like being called shemales. While some
of us don't take exception to the term, it is an error in terminology that can
quickly send you packing. Indeed, many well-intentioned admirers have struck
out simply because of a misguided attempt to be friendly. Here is a good rule
to follow; Don't refer to anyone as a shemale, transsexual, transvestite, etc.
until you have asked what she prefers to be called. A politely worded
inquiry should prompt a t-girl to let you know exactly what term she considers
most appropriate. If you must use a term, rather than a person's name, perhaps
the term transgendered is the least offensive of all the terms. This is a
generic term that fits most t-girls and is rarely offensive.
Make a great first
impression - Whether in person or in
writing, making a good first impression is critical for success. Most of us
understand the importance of being clean and presenting ourselves in a
positive manner in person to person meetings. What many of us fail to realize
is that first impressions are equally important in written communications.
When you are e-mailing, chatting online or exchanging Instant Messages, you
must rely on mere words to make a good first impression. You will want to
carefully choose your words so you don't come off as offensive. Good grammar
and spelling is important, so don't get sloppy just because you're
communicating electronically. It is also important that you don't give the
impression that you're impatient, insincere or desperate. Practice being a
good communicator, which means expressing yourself well and being a good
listener. Using good communication skills, you will be able to learn
about the t-girls you meet and sort through them to find those that interest
you the most.
Steer clear of
the bad apples - Just like other people in the real world, some t-girls
have drug or alcohol problems, nasty dispositions, etc.. A few simple
questions will reveal many of these undesirable traits. Be honest and
forthright in your communications and expect the same from others. I say it is
definitely worth spending a little time getting to know someone, rather than
rushing into a meeting that could be unpleasant, or even disastrous. Most
t-girls are good people, but there are those who should be avoided.
Play it safe! -
You must screen your t-girl friends just as you would screen any other
potential friends or lovers. Do they possess undesirable traits such as drug
addiction, alcohol abuse, criminal intent, HIV+, etc? Remember that you must
protect yourself. Safety is
a very important consideration that cannot be overlooked just because you have
a raging hardon! The subject of safe sex also cannot be overemphasized. We
believe in a responsibility of all people to engage in safe sex. This means
getting to know someone before you hop in the sack, using condoms and periodic
testing for sexually transmitted diseases. Have fun, but play it safe!
Patience and
perseverance are good qualities - Be prepared to shop around before you
expect to meet the person who is just right for you. Have a little patience
and don't give up. Keep trying and refining your approach. If you follow
these tips, I assure you there is someone out there who can't wait to find
you!
